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We Can't Expect Others to Give Us What We Cannot Give Ourselves


If only I'd learned this growing up! - I'd have less reprogramming to do!

We get so used to getting our needs met outside of ourselves when we are young, that we think this is how to go about getting them met when we grow up.

So many people, dare I say, MOST people turn to the outside world for:

* Validation * Love * Compassion * Permission * Acceptance

When all of these things can ONLY really be found inside!

We may evoke validation from our lover one day, but on another day, when they are lost in their own troubles, we may not be able to evoke the same sentiment.

Our best friend might think we are so amazing one day, but just not be available the next.

Have you ever received praise from someone but you didn't REALLY FEEL it? This is because THEIR validation does not equal YOURS!

What to do?

It is only when we learn that WE are the source of our own happiness that we can truly be the CREATORS of our lives, writing the script as we so choose.

The term "locus of control" is the frame of reference for the extent to which we believe we can control our reactions to events that affect us (Divine Intelligence by Dr. Jayne Gardner).

A person with an external locus of control believes that fate or God controls his or her life.

A person with an internal locus of control believes t