I am almost at the end of the first week of the Divine Intelligence Process. There are 5 people in our group, 4, including me, are coaches and 1 is a client of Dr. Jayne who has never done the process.
The first meeting was mostly formalities. Setting guidelines, norms for the group such as confidentiality, show up on time, don’t be judgemental, don’t try to solve each other‘s problems. We talked about what we each were hoping to gain from our time together and what we expect of ourselves and each other.
When you take the process in a group, you are usually assigned an accountability partner. This time around, Dr. Jayne advised us to reach out to each other and find a partner and if someone is left without a partner, they could ask a trusted friend to do the accountability work with them. With an odd number of participants, someone would be left out.
Your accountability partner (AP) is someone who you meet with once per week to discuss the classwork with. At times, the assigned work includes an AP interview and you would take turns asking each other questions. My first time going through the process, I was assigned an AP. He was an immigrant to the US and a family man, and like the character in the Divine Intelligence book, was embarking upon a career change. I recall that first class: Dr. Jayne said we’d be assigned accountability partners and out of the group of 8 of us, I spied my AP and hoped we’d be paired up. It felt magical that I got my wish.
This time around, I hoped to be paired up with either one of the coaches or the newbie, with preference going toward the coach, thinking it will be a more valuable experience for me. I felt a little pressed when I learned we had to MAKE our own AP - I didn’t want to be left without one! One of the women reached out right away to the newbie and asked him to pair up. This left two options for me. When I emailed the two remaining people later, I learned that the newbie was already committed to one of the people I emailed. The other person, the coach I’d hoped for, replied that she’d be happy to be my AP. BUT, this still left one person out. And she is a great coach and friend of mine, so it occurred to me that we could all three be accountable to each other. I presented the idea to both ladies and we agreed. We are a Trifecta! We agreed to meet on Fridays via Zoom each week.
If you take the process 1-on-1 with your coach, your coach acts as your accountability partner. I haven’t taken the process in this fashion, but I think what you may “miss out on” would be that peer companionship going through a similar experience. My former AP and I didn’t continue a friendship over the years, but it was really great getting to know him and sharing somewhat personal things about our lives created a connection with another person that would not have been formed otherwise. The alternative is that 1-on-1 you have the opportunity to go deeper into the experience by getting personalized attention and having a skilled coach guide you through the AP exercises. Also, if you are open to being vulnerable and sharing details of your life, it is easier to do so with a coach who is non-judgmental and promises to keep your conversations confidential.
The work assigned during week 1 is an introduction to goal setting, with detailed instructions on how to get clear about where you are and where you want to go, including how to set and recognize benchmarks , both internal and external, along the way that confirm you are on your way to achieving your goal. This goal can be anything at all you want to achieve in your life. Business personal health spiritual, you name it. As I mentioned in last week’s blog, I have decided to focus on my health. Well, health and time. We learn that neuroscience shows that the brain can only integrate 10 words at a time and so we are instructed to state our DI Process goal in 10 words or fewer. I think I’ve got it down to, “My body feels strong, energetic, and healthy 90% of the time.” I’d love to find a way to incorporate time into this. I have a feeling that, like progress in my career, better time management will also come as a side effect of doing the process. I’ll ask my coach on Monday when we meet.
The second part of week one’s work is to commit to a specific style of journaling for the duration of the process. We learn the science behind journaling and how it has been shown to benefit our physical, mental, and emotional health and positively impact sleeping habits, work efficiency, and sociability. Each day, shortly after waking, we are to write according to specific guidelines. Dr. Jayne attests that it is this writing that has the biggest impact whether or not we achieve our goals.
Since completing the process 3 years ago, I have continued to journal. Sometimes I use Dr. Jayne’s specific method and sometimes I use others. There are so many useful ways to write. But for the next 3 months, I do it the DI way. I am really enjoying it with a new zest. I have committed to showing up for myself each day in my morning writing, and since deciding on my goal I’ve noticed it showing up in my writing every day. Because of this I really feel my inner being becoming invested in my goal. Doing this writing is also making me more aware of my inner voice and its distinct signature tone.
People new to the process sometimes struggle with this new way of writing. There are three aspects to it, and it may just require some adjusting to. It’s not hard, it’s just like learning a new way to do something you’ve always done a different way. I, personally, love journaling every day and if I skip it one day, I really do miss it.
1 down, 11 to go!