Dialogue five is where all the magic happens. It’s the hardest one to do but it is superabundant with awesome revelations and healing.
In this dialogue, we work to remove the control the past has over us and rebalance our energy level by releasing negative emotional energy during the rewire retreat. This negative emotional energy exists in our lives in the form of anger, sadness, guilt, regret, and resentments.
These negative emotions disrupt the flow of energy in our bodies, zap our strength, and leave us feeling drained. They create mental barriers to achieving goals and creating a life of fulfillment. Suppressing negative emotions or pretending they don’t exist is not the answer. We must release them and let them go.
Dr. Jayne has a very specific method to doing this which is our work on this 48 hour, solo rewire retreat. It incorporates writing, talking, exercise, and meditation. Our instructions for the rewire retreat are to turn off our phone and keep all distractions at home. No books, alcohol, movies, or other… Just you and your work. Trust me, you will need the whole amount of time; you will not have any downtime.
This is very deep emotional work. It’s profound, touching, and moving.
It changes you. You literally are not the same person you were before the retreat and that is a good thing. All good things.
Even though I’ve done this before, I gleaned new things about myself and about my relationships with others and about my past and how it has limited me up till this point.
In addition to these discoveries, I’ve had new insights into changes I must make in my personal life in order to best use my energy towards my highest good. Running around in circles, or spending time in relationships that don’t produce positive feelings and outcomes is truly a waste of my time. That’s not to say that I don’t respect these relationships deeply. I’m sure that’s part of the problem. But energy spent going backwards is essentially energy taken in the opposite direction of where I want to go, and holding me back from my best and highest life that I am striving to live.
Dr. Jayne says it may take several days for the biological changes to settle into your body. I did my retreat Friday to Sunday and took the rest of the day Sunday to do whatever I felt like doing. I was exhausted by Sunday afternoon. I drank a lot of water during the retreat. I’ve heard emotional work makes you thirsty, and this weekend, I experienced just that. I love it, though. I feel like it validates my progress. The rest of the day Sunday, I took naps and a hot shower, worked on some creative projects, and watched some Netflix. Monday was a cold and rainy day and I felt on top of the world. I was inspired to take a walk in the morning and I also took a walk that afternoon. I feel so full of possibilities, and I feel clear. So clear. My path feels clear to me right now. I can’t see every step and decision along the way, but I am in a place where my choices look good and I am excited for the things that come before me each day. I also love that I have four weeks left of this process and that each week is focusing on more positive things. I know this because I’ve done this before. Now that I’m in this great feeling place, I want to maintain it, and that’s what these next four weeks are for. Maintaining, elevating, better and better. I’m so excited.
Clients new to the divine intelligence process always come back different. They come back with tons of realizations and a-ha‘s. So many dots connected in their lives. I have even had one client who said she couldn’t finish her work at the retreat because it was too hard yet, she yielded great results. In my group this time around, my group the first time around, and of the 12 coaches in my coach training course, 100% of the attendees reported profound results from the rewire retreat.
The most common day-to-day benefit is non-reaction to typical triggers. Someone who normally pushes our buttons no longer has access to those buttons because the buttons have begun to heal. The people in our lives are the same but we have changed. Now, we respond rather than react. Another common benefit is that students begin setting loving and effective boundaries in their relationships. They communicate better. They realize that THEY are the ones with the power to affect their lives. Where previously, folks had either assumed the power to someone else or gave it away via subconscious, self-defense mechanisms, they are conscious, deliberate, and purposeful. One client of mine had a goal of creating a happy and harmonious household. She and her husband were together 10+ years and they had two small kids at home. After her retreat, her husband met a more loving, playful, and joyful wife. Later on in their lives, when old familial patterns showed up in their relationship, a rational conversation was had, boundaries were set which were respected and discussed, which then resulted in a happier and more harmonious household.
Personal takeaways for me at this point in the process: A clearer understanding of how I’ve given my power away in the past, clarity and understanding of the imbalances in some of my relationships, motivation, drive and optimism towards the future, an eagerness for life and all it has to offer.